Two years ago my husband cheated on me. His affair lasted about 10 months. I forgave him and thought everything was back to normal when I discovered that he has been downloading pics of naked women when I’m at work. THIS IS NOT PORN, only profiles of naked women. Now i feel so insecure about our relationship. Should I suspect him cheating again?
Tags: 10 Months, Cheating, Pics Of Naked Women, Porn Download
Uh…naked women is porn.
And no, porn is not cheating.
Watching porn is nothing to be proud of, nor is it the action of a devoted husband….
…but it’s not adultery. In other words, it’s a problem, but not a divorcable offense.
Now quit trying to qualify what he’s doing as something other than looking at porn, and figure out WHY he’s doing it so you can help solve the problem.
Good Luck!
once they’ve done it the second time around is much easier and they wise up some.. i’d suspect something but with nothing to prove there’s not much to do except for the letting the sick man know he’s hurting you.. even tho it’s not physically cheating (yet) it’s emotional and his attention is diverted there, which it should be towards you.. esp in that way
if you told him you don’t like that and he is doing it then emotional cheating and physiological cheating you don’t really know what else is happening because you say it happened before and now you are thinking about it more often than if he wasn’t looking at those pictures.(good luck)
I think it’s downright creepy if you ask me.
its a form of cheating, it shows if he had half the chance he would prolly act on it!!!…its called LUST.
yes, he’s cheating. Most of those types of sites have email addresses so the photo posters and their “fans” can communicate. If he’s hiding it from you, it’s cheating. Clearly, he’d rather look at them than you. Sorry.
hi unsecure
i think that men that do that stuff. is cheating in ther mind. let him no you found it and then see what his anser is because you deserve a anwer. only you can be the jouge of that.may be he has a fantisy you can fill for him.
good luck
~~JANELLE`~~
I wouldn’t say it was technically cheating but it’s a HUGE problem in my book! I don’t understand isn’t naked women porn?
You need to seek counseling for the two of you. He is obviously needing something, and you obviously don’t have it. That’s not being rude, it could be an addiction to porn, or maybe he’s into strangers? You never know unless you get into counseling.
Ok, I am probably going to get some thumbs down for this, but here it goes. Looking at naked pictures of women is pretty much porn. A lot of men, whether they admit it or not, look at some type of porn. Magazines, movies, pictures, whatever. I understand that you are insecure about him cheating on you, but looking at naked pictures of women is not cheating. Chances are, he doesn’t even know these women he is looking at. So here is my question for you. If one of your girlfriends came to you and said she had tickets to go see the “thunder from down under” all male strip show, and wanted you to come, would you go? Be honest now.
I watch porn WITH my man sometimes. I weigh 300 pounds, and have an 8 month old baby to boot. The girls on those movies don’t make me jealous. I mean, don’t get me wrong, they are hotties, but they are just doing their job. Chances are, the women in the pictures your husband looks at are just doing their job as well. They could probably have any man on the planet they wanted, but the chances of them wanting MY boyfriend, or YOUR husband are slim to none you know what I mean? Don’t be mad about him looking at porn or pictures. It’s a worthless anger, and just added stress for you. Sometime, just for a minute or two, try looking at pictures with him, and maybe even point out a few you like. Who knows, it might be the extra kick your relationship needs.
Once someone has cheated in a relationship, the level of suspicion should be raised and if this person is looking at nude photos this “might” indicate a problem. I say “might” because all men are natural voyeurs and look at nude women. Downloading nude pics of women is not cheating in itself, because cheating also requires intimate contact in addition to deception. As long as he doesn’t know these women in the photos and is not engaging in intimate contact with them, they remain simply a fantasy. Fantasies are normal, but jumping from fantasy to reality is not. Often, that is what happens with cheating. A person decides they want to pursue a fantasy behind their partner’s back.
The thing to watch is if he becomes obsessive with downloading these pics to the point of him dedicating too much time to doing it while amassing a huge collection. This could indicate that he has issues and needs to seek counseling.
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I think it’s a big jump to go from looking at art nudes to adultery.
Did I cheat on my wife when I looked at the statue of David?
Jesus said, “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”
The King James Version, (Cambridge: Cambridge) 1769.
The answer to your question is, “Yes. He is cheating.” All his energy and desire should be concentrated on you, but he’s divided.
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If it has naked women on the internet, it’s porn dear. Sorry to say, but it is. And if it wasn’t porn, why do you care? But if you’re offended by it, talk to him about it, and if he doesn’t stop, time for some counseling!