I just found out that my husband cheated with a girl from uni. Im not living with him but now i that i only have 9 weeks until I have his baby, i never want to again. But how do I stop thinking about him and just live my life.
Tags: Husband Cheating, Uni
I know that my answer will not be received well by many.
You have to make a rational decision. You are going to get a baby and the last thing you want at this time is a divorce. Its not worth it, at least not now.
Confront him, take the piss out of him by reminding him the vows and make him aware of the consequences. If he changes, good for you and your baby. If not, its probably time to move on. Just remember that one act of infidelity should not result in a divorce. It could have been circumstantial.
You move on one day at a time that’s all you can do and like Tom said don’t make any hasty decisions right now especially in your frame of mind. Believe it or not things can work out between you and your husband but only if he has learned his lesson. My husband cheated on me and he hated himself for it and he has been a changed man ever sense. It’s been 10 years and i really think he did learn from his actions. Losing me was the price my husband wasn’t willing to take. You are having his baby and i really don’t think he is willing to take that chance of never seeing you and his baby again just for some skank he had sex with.
Tell him if it happens again he can see the baby but you need time to think. concentrate on you and your baby.
I agree partially with the first guys answer. Cheating does not have to equal divorce. I was kinda in this same situation. My hubby cheated on me when I was 3 months pregnant. We split up my entire pregnancy. Then when I had the baby, it was like a light bulb went off in his head. He hasn’t been the same since. He is the man of my dreams and I couldn’t love him more. This happened about 5 years ago.
I know you’re angry with him and nothing he can say or do will take away the hurt that you are feeling but sometimes you have to look past all that.
It’s going to be hard to forgive because you never forget, try and concentrate on your baby, you are going to need all the energy, don’t waste any on him, it’s going to be a while before you stop thinking about him, but being that your having his baby, it’s going to be even harder, just be strong, think about how wrong he did you and the anger will help you forget him. Good Luck!